The Corporate Boyfriend – A Testimony
A while back I posted a video titled “The Corporate Boyfriend” in which I described the manipulative, addictive nature that many corporate jobs hold for women. So often we hear Empowered Young Feminists talking about how much they “love their jobs.” As Men, we interpret this in the same manner that we use it: “My job is tolerable, mildly interesting, not overly demeaning, and they pay’s alright.” Men don’t enjoy working for its own sake; it’s a means to an end for us. Aside from a lucky few, we work to live, we don’t live to work.
However, when women say that they “love their job” they literally mean it; the modern corporate work environment has evolved to appeal directly to women’s subconscious tribal instincts. It is quite literally a super stimulus, as dangerous as cheap candy bars or easy pornography – thanks to the developments of marketing, psychology, and video games, social structures have been developed which operate on a pre-rational level. A short-circuit of the brain which is easy to fall prey to. The Corporate Boyfriend is one aimed at women, to exploit the work ethic that would normally be dedicated to their family and community.
For more on Gamification watch this video by Extra Credits.
For more on the power of Marketing, watch this BBC documentary “The Century of Self.”
However, the purpose of this post is to provide a testimony on the damage the Corporate Boyfriend can wreak upon the things that actually matter in life – it’s as dangerous as any other form of addiction. What follows is a Private Message I received in my YouTube inbox. Specifics have been altered to preserve anonymity, but the thrust remains the same.
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My mother’s corporate boyfriend was the state. She taught high school and middle school and devoted most of her off work time to teaching or thinking about teaching. Once we were old enough she started going back to university to take more courses about stuff that she thought was relevant to her job. It was a never ending full time job for her and the emotional validation she got from it was huge.
In the early noughties she got a cell phone and then she was connected with work all of the time. She would get phone calls and text messages from students every day of the week and all she thought about was work. Eventually she became so addicted to the emotional dependence that she volunteered to be a special education / behavioral students teacher. She was involved with suicidal kids, fetal alcohol syndrome kids, minority kids, teen pregnancy, and genius kids who were to behavioral to be successful academically. Her family was competing with 30 other people for her time and attention. We lost that competition.
It fucking CONSUMED her. Between her students’ drama and the drama between her and the other faculty, especially her last male principal, she had no life. She has lived in the same city for like 20 years and has made no real friends around here. She made her tiny circle of female friends decades ago and they all live in different parts of the country. She has to travel hundreds of kilometers just to visit them. Her marriage is a shambles because she was completely devoted to the public education system (i.e. her corporate boyfriend) for so long. The worst part of it is that she got breast cancer in her last few years of teaching and had to prematurely retire. She ended up surviving, but now that she is retired she has nothing to show for her work other than her pension.
Her work was so time consuming that now she has absolutely no clue what to do with herself now that she is not a teacher. After she recovered from the cancer treatment she started taking courses at university again with no realistic degree in mind. After she got tired of that she joined some company and started selling makeup. She has moved on to her second corporate boyfriend. She doesn’t need the money since she had a government job with a good pension program, but she has no idea what to do with herself. It’s so sad. My mom is 60-years-old and all she knows how to do is work. She never learned any interesting hobbies or skills other than teaching English.
Your corporate boyfriend video was somewhat hard for me to watch because of this. The price her family has paid for her extramarital corporate relationship is huge. She probably got the cancer because of the hormone replacement pills she was taking to forestall menopause. She took them because she was having memory problems from early menopause, which was “interfering with her job.”
The amount of wealth and social capital that was destroyed to make her into a crown corporate cog is truly staggering. She started as a College student on the dole as the Marxist-Feminst (party member, not just an ideologue) single mother of my half brother. She got a scholarship and traveled on it during that time. Taxpayers have invested millions of dollars in her and in the end they didn’t even get 30 years of employment out of her.
This culture is totally unsustainable. If all women were to live the way my mother did our birthrate would crash and our culture would immediately be replaced with Brave New distractions and orgy porgies. Least importantly, she now regrets the way she lived her life. She thinks she worked “too much.” My campus is ~70% women just like her. The future looks grim for Western civilization.
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What strikes me as the saddest part is that a school teacher – a profession which used to be one of the foundational bedrocks of the community – has been so over swept with regulation and HR management strategies that is becomes as soul- and life-destroying as the most menial of office-tower marketing positions.
Note that after her forced retirement she didn’t decide to write the Great American Novel, or launch a business initiative to benefit both her and the community – instead she started selling makeup for a franchised mega-corporation.
We’ve been crawling in the mud so long that most of us can’t imagine it being any other way.
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“extramarital corporate relationship”
Three words that completely describe the problem.
Whenever I hear a women say, “I’ve got a great job” or “I love my job” I just cringe.
If you love your job, chances are you aren’t working in a coal mine or an oil rig. You know – the type of jobs that actually make life tolerable or provide enough income to feed a family.
And yet women, who mostly do not work these jobs, love their empowering roles and think working as a marketing manager is somehow analogous to the guy who takes liquid from the ground and turns it into energy (all while putting his life on the line and providing for his wife and kids).
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I see it differently.
So many people today, including “Manospherians”, complain about teachers and how they are just in it for the money (ha!) and don’t really care about the kids or have any passion for their vocation.
And here we have a woman who did have passion, who did care for the kids, who did give it her all and her best.
Her son should be proud!
Which brings up the next point: What is it with Westerners not respecting their parents or elders?
Where I am currently from (the culture I adopted), any son would be BEAMING WITH PRIDE over how his mother helped other kids and made a difference in their lives.
This is one of the reasons I had to reject my own so-called “culture” and adopt a foreign one – there is no “civilization” in Western Civilzation.
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Ed: You’re missing the subtext. This woman wasn’t involved in her community out of a passion for others – rather she was seeking fulfillment of ego-narratives, trying to become strong and empowered, networking with co-workers at the expense of the actual loved ones in her life. Note that there was no mention of post-education involvement with her charges in the special-ed courses – only her “colleagues.“
women have absolutely no real understanding of what it means to work for a living. they are guaranteed any job they apply for and cannot be fired, but they can quit on a moment’s notice if they so desire. everything that ever man learns about employment does not apply to women.
“Ed: You’re missing the subtext. This woman wasn’t involved in her community out of a passion for others – rather she was seeking fulfillment of ego-narratives, trying to become strong and empowered, networking with co-workers at the expense of the actual loved ones in her life. Note that there was no mention of post-education involvement with her charges in the special-ed courses – only her “colleagues.“
So, you can see inside peoples hearts and minds also? You know what they are thinking and feeling at all times of the day and night?
Sounds like you’re more of a mystic yogi than even I am!
I offer my namaste to your yogic powers.
“So, you can see inside peoples hearts and minds also? You know what they are thinking and feeling at all times of the day and night?”
Of course he can’t, but considering the evidence is the woman’s *own child* calling out her failure as a *parent* to her *own family*, I think the extrapolation of motives from the offered evidence is solid.
The majority of human behaviour isn’t particularly complex or unique enough to assume she’s NAWALT.
Ed: Exactly. While the original writer may be biased, it’s unlikely – since, as he said, my video put into words the thing he’s been feeling for quite some time. If he were just looking for an excuse to be angry at his mother, he would have chosen something simpler, and already defined her “problem” (a problem of his own projection). Since he didn’t, it’s more likely that he’s accurate. It’s not 100%, but it’s *very likely* true.
Also: “So, you can see inside peoples hearts and minds also?” Yeah, I pretty much can. Most people are incredibly predictable. They never overcome their vanities or traumas, and repeat the same psycho-dramas again and again. On top of that I’m a writer of fiction, and a pretty good one at that; simulating others’ brains is something I’m rather adept at.
I disagree. Going solely by what the son wrote, his mother was a good, engaged, passionate and empathetic teacher. The type of teacher you would want teaching your kids, if you ever had them and put them in public or private school.
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Now you’re the one claiming you can read minds. There’s no evidence presented that she was, or wasn’t, “a good, engaged, passionate and empathetic teacher.” She was clearly devoted, possibly obsessed. But no information is given as to the qualities you arttribute to her.
Frankly, I’ve always suspected that the worst performing teachers are the ones who get pushed into special ed. I claim no knowledge of that, however. It’s just a gut feeling.
Ted, touche!
In the Manosphere women are damned if they do, damned if they don’t.
This teacher-mom is damned because she did.
On the other hand if she didn’t (was not an involved, dedicated teacher), the Manosphere would damn her for “wasting tax payers’ money and neglecting to properly teach American children.”
Either way, women just can’t win with you guys.
This isn’t The Patriarchy ™ complaining about a woman focusing too tightly on her job. It’s her own son complaining about it. Plainly, she’s damaged her relationship with him, in favor of her career.
For the sake of discussion, let’s assume she was a truly great teacher. There are over 7 million teachers in this country. But a child only has one mother. He needed her more than her students did.
If you really want to know, it’s rather easy to win with us guys. All you need to do is prioritize your life. If you want to teach, great. Be the best teacher you can be. If you want to be a mother, be the best mother you can be. The two are mutually exclusive.
It’s the same with men. Men with “careers” tend to be pretty lousy fathers. Having a career means putting work first in your life. The good fathers are the ones who merely have “jobs.” A job is simply a means to put food on the table. We don’t have them to give meaning to our lives. We have families for that. But those families need to eat, so we do what we must.
In today’s economic conditions, that one job commonly isn’t enough. In many families, women also need to have jobs (outside the home). It may surprise you to know that very few men actually like this situation. Most men see “mother” as a far more important job than “teacher”, or even “doctor”. And we know that we’re simply not capable of doing it. But we grudgingly accept that, in order to maintain what is generally seen as an acceptable lifestyle, mothers must commonly bring in a paycheck, as well. This situation is already less than ideal. But it becomes disasterous when, instead of a job, a mother takes on a career. As in the example above, the children become secondary. Just like the man with a career being a lousy father, the woman with a career is a lousy mother. In either case, there should never have been children. It’s never right, for a man or a woman, to push his/her own children any further down the list of priorities than is absolutely necessary.
That’s why this woman is being shunned. Not for having a job, but for prioritizing that job above her own child.
To sum up, we want women to choose a career, OR motherhood. If she chooses the latter, and a paying job becomes necessary, we want it to remain only a job. And yes, we hold men to that same standard.
Ted, I disagree that being a teacher is just another ordinary “job”.
Many students are moved for life by the input they get from just one caring and concerned teacher.
Teaching is about relationships with other human beings. That goes over and above a mechanical “job”.
Again, in my culture a child would have been very proud of a parent who was as dedicated as this one to her students.
From my perspective its just another example of a spoiled western brat complaining and exhibiting his cultural angst in the form of parental hate.
Utterly shameful.
EdOddly, from my perspective, that’s exactly the way I see you. A “spoiled western brat complaining and exhibiting [her] cultural angst in the form of parental hate.” Only in your case, that parental hate extends to the entire culture you bash. To claim the culture that produced Newton, DaVinci, Mozart, Edison, Einstein, Shakespeare, Tesla, Galileo, Dickens, Jefferson, King, Hawking, Wagner, (I could go on for pages) is deviod of civilization, is childish on a level I can’t comprehend. I’d never claim that western civilization is perfect. But to say it’s without merit, is absurd. We couldn’t even have this discussion without western civilization, unless we were both in the same room.
I never said that teaching is just another job. I said that mothering is a more important one. If you think the culture you’ve claimed as your own regards being a mother as “just another job,” I urge you to ask around. I find that very unlikely. To my knowledge, the only culture to value paid work more highly than raising children, is western feminism.
A child needs a mother. A husband needs a wife. If a woman, who voluntarily accepted both roles, refuses to fulfill them, of what value is she to her husband and child? Put another way, if your father spent his days feeding the homeless, while letting you starve, would you feel pride, or betrayal?
Ed: I love the disingenuous convo. Please go away.
“Ted, I disagree that being a teacher is just another ordinary “job”.
Many students are moved for life by the input they get from just one caring and concerned teacher.”
First, that caring and concerned teacher is so moving because that kind of teacher is such a rarity in the bureaucratic school system. I’ve only met a few teachers in my life that don’t list “summers off” and “job security” as their top reasons for doing it. The few that I’ve met that actually care about the kids are chewed up and spit out by that same system, because the top priority of that system is the teachers and administration.
Second, the other reason the occasional teach is such a moving influence is because most parents aren’t any more interested in being involved with their kids than most of the teachers. They have them because they’re supposed to, or some misguided idea that the children have some obligation to care for them when they’re old.
“Teaching is about relationships with other human beings. That goes over and above a mechanical “job”.”
No, teaching is about providing careers for women who can’t manage a real degree, and letting them have their summers off to lay on the beach while still getting on their high horse about what a sacrifice it is being a teacher.
” They have them because they’re supposed to, or some misguided idea that the children have some obligation to care for them when they’re old.”
Are you from South Asia?
In the Western world nobody expects their kids to care for them when they are old (or ever). And adult kids in the western world sure as sugar don’t want to live with or take care of old parents.
Nope. Just like the “son” who wrote this disgraceful drivel against his own mother, the western world is full of kids, young and adult, that have nothing but disdain for their parents.
Reporter 2 Gandhi: What do you think about Western Civilization?
Gandhi: I think it would be a good idea.
This culture is totally unsustainable. If all women were to live the way my mother did our birthrate would crash and our culture would immediately be replaced with Brave New distractions and orgy porgies. Least importantly, she now regrets the way she lived her life. She thinks she worked “too much.” My campus is ~70% women just like her. The future looks grim for Western civilization.
Birth rates HAVE CRASHED and culture is being replaced with low IQ high crime immigrants in Europe and the US.
I agree with other commenters that it is great to see a really dedicated teacher. A woman that works as good or better then any man.
And I agree with you that she neglects her family. As most hard working men do.
Most women like that nowadays would have no kids at all. That sure brings civilization down: the most intelligent, most dedicated women have zero children. And the low IQ ones have 7 low iQ children and get financed by the taxes of the childless elite.
Part of the zero child policy is due to other feminist laws, divorce laws, alimony law, family court. A well to do man can get financially destroyed for life by a woman. Add to that the danger of sexual harassment and rape charges.
Your traditional position is interesting, probably true but very far from any accepted feminist norm and even rejected by 98% of all men’s rights proponents. The latter just want a more equitable and just equality, no old fashioned traditional family work share that caused the human race to survive for a million years.
I’m guessing you’re not aware of Ghandis collaboration with Japan during the war, nor his role in the India/Pakistan schism, and the subsequent genocide that followed. Or, maybe you are and that’s why you pinkos are so in love with that old pervert.