Gender, Rape, and Equality
Today I want to talk about Rape. In particular, I want to talk about false accusations. The reason I want to talk about this is because it’s not a gender issue. It’s not a Men’s issue. It’s not a Women’s issue.
It’s a People’s issue.
Obviously I’m going to talk about Feminists (what with them being traitors to their own stated cause, and all), but since I’m an equal opportunity Hater, let’s start with their kilt-wearing counterparts: the Men’s Rights movement.
The MRM is generally a Cause for Good, but they’re no more ‘perfect’ than any other loose association of individuals; there’s more than a few of them who are 9 pounds of stupid in a 2 pound bag – a minority who embody the Feminist accusations of MRM being anti-woman. But the latent misogyny of this minority is, in a way, forgivable. The bitterness evident in their tone suggrests a cruel history of Ex-Wives and Dishonest Cops, and you can feel where they’re coming from – you don’t so much disagree as you do feel pity for their perspectives.
You can call them assholes, you can call them losers, you can call them whatever you want – but always remember that hating women isn’t the same as acting out against them. The MRM may be guilty of idealizing the 1950’s, of sometimes being overly skeptical of of legitimate complaints – but not even the most cynical member would say that Rape is ever justified. They are biased, sure they are, but they’re not unjust.
The Feminists are another matter.
There is a widely accepted definition of Rape, to which most of society subscribes: sexual behaviour enacted by coercion: “Suck my dick or else I’ll stab you/fire you from your job/because I’m your hockey coach and I Know What’s Best.” This sort of behaviour is universally condemned. We don’t need Government to tell us that It is a Crime, regardless of the genders involved.
The Feminists, meanwhile, try and stretch the definition. They want to engender the same Outrage for situations which are far less dire. Take Date Rape, for example: once upon a time it referred to a Pleasant Evening Turned Ugly – up at Makeout Point, Biff took Lorraine’s Hymen by threat of Force or Libel. In today’s world, it means that she had a blood alcohol level of 0.10 (soon to be 0.08 thanks to the Concerned Citizens at MADD) and a bad case of Buyers Remorse. Then there’s the matter of implied consent – it used to be that case that ‘No means No,’ which is reasonable enough, but lately college campuses have been indoctrinating students about how ‘Only Yes means Yes.’ The idea is, that without a ‘Yes’ she’s only taking her panties off because she’s afraid of an implied beating. I strongly suspect that I’d be laughed out of court if I ever claimed Theft-by-Intimidation just because my roomate, who outweighs me by fourty pounds, said “Yo, gimme twenty dollars.”
And then, of course, there’s the feminists who say that any sex act which involves penetration – up to and including a loving Lesbian relationship involving a Strapon – is rape. In the case of a double-ender, both parties deserve Prosecution.
It’s tempting to dismiss these women as radicals, but the fact of the matter is that treatises like the SCUM Manifesto are the basis of modern feminism. The only real difference between Valerie Solanas and your HR Supervisor is that the latter understands the subtleties of PR. It’s not about equality – it’s about misogynistic self-hatred manifesting as misandry. You don’t need a historical analysis to prove this; you don’t even need quotations from SCUMM; all you need is a quick perusal of the laws we currently have in place. They’re unequivocally Sexist.
50 years ago women were always to blame, because they were asking for it. Today men are always to blame because women are weak, irresponsible, and childish. This is why drunk sex constitutes rape – because the woman, by virtue of drunkeness, is presumed to be incompetent.
“Hey, wait a minute–” you might say, “Didn’t she choose to go to the campus bar, get drunk, and follow some frat-boy home? How is that rape, given that there was no knife or bondage involved? It’s not his fault that she cheated on her boyfriend.” I’d like to sympathize with your statement; I truly would. But the unfortunate fact of the matter is that you’re obviously a misogynist, providing tacit-support for Rapists. It’s a State Mandated Fact that although women might frequently put themselves into an impaired state, this is one of their innate behvarioural disorders; an accepted weakness of the Female Race. They are not responsible for what they ‘choose’ when drinking, and they must not pay any of the consequences.
“Wait, that’s a double standard,” you might say, “One time I got drunk and all of a sudden it seemed like a good idea to go for a drive. Sure, I crashed into a police cruiser (lol) but you can’t blame me for that, it was just the alcohol thinking; I would’ve never driven drunk if I’d been sober!”
You’re missing the point. When you choose to drink you’re responsible for all of the consequences; when she chooses to drink, you’re responsible for preventing all of her consequences, despite your own lack of sobriety. The Feminists pushed for this law because it was the only way to ensure Equality.
Like one of my old Sergeant Majors used to say, “You choose the behaviour, you choose the consequences – except for women, of course, because they’re not our Moral Equals.”
The double-standard legislated by Government screws over men, and demeans women. I’m sure you’ve heard the cry, “One hundred years ago women were treated like property!” Well, nowadays they are property – property owned by the State, and leased out to Men during marriage. It’s one thing when children are surpervised by the state – I might not be a fan of Child Protective Services, but at least the arguments sort-of make sense – but when adult voters are supervised by the state, when the state is willing to intervene in their personal lives, against their wishes and without a Court declaration of insanity – that’s when things start looking a bit hinky.
The Standard Narrative is that men are abusers, and women are victims. But lately there’s been evidence coming out – more and more of it – suggesting the situation ain’t so black and white:
70% of Domestic Disturbances are initiated by women. Think about your own Annecdotal Proof for a moment: how many women have you known who would slap, hit, or punch a man, escalating a verbal argument into a physical one? Conversely, how many men have you known who would beat their woman for burning a grilled cheese sandwich?
Granted, you probably know a couple who get violent with each other – but it’s usually Consensual Violence, exacerbated by poverty. They both start it, they both continue it, they both make up afterwards. The Wife Beater we see on TV and Believe In is just as much of Moral Panic as the numerous gangs of Paedophiles which (don’t) wander our streets.
Speaking of Paedophiles, roughly a third of child molesters are females (and yes, female molestation is damaging). This is something I’ve scratched my noggin over. Consider, first, that evidence suggests that paedophilia is a genetically ingrained preference, in the same manner as homosexuality (Evolution’s awful, ain’t she?) Consider, secondly, that while a low-status woman can always find someone who’ll sleep with her (I once saw a Hamilton Twitch-Head, a lady who’d once stolen a handicap-walker, tricking herself out to a homeless man in a bus shelter), low-status men are sexually bereft. It seems plausible that a low-status male might have better luck with his Innocent and Admiring little niece, than with a woman his own age… or maybe men are just more genetically prone to paedophilia. There’s some EvoPsych reasons why this might be, but ultimately, in the Moral Perspective, the causes are irrelevant: Molestation is Molestation; it’s damaging, and it’s a Crime.
Now – finally – let’s get to the topic I promised you at the beginning of this piece: False Rape Accusations. Your typical feminist will say they account for less than 2% or rape claims. Recent evidence shows that the real percentage – actually no, not the ‘real’ percentage, just the bare minimum percentage (they only counted as ‘false’ accusations which were definitely false) is more like 41%. That number does not include the alleged Rapes where ‘the accused was eventually found innocent’ or ‘insufficient evidence to bother with prosecution’ – it only includes those that we know are false
Think about that for a minute. Think about it next time you read about an alleged Rape in the newspaper. That man’s life may not be ruined, but it’s certainly been impacted; in most cases his career prospects are seriously diminished. He might have lost friends, family members, and his name will forever carry the subtitle ‘Monster’ for perpetuity. Even those that stick by him will always have that suspicion of “What if..?” His life is irrecovably changed – and his innocence is just a coin-flip away. How fucking awful is that?
At the start of this piece, I said this wasn’t a Men’s Issue. It isn’t. Let’s look at it from a woman’s perspective.
Imagine you’re a woman who actually got raped – if you can. It’s a rather Ugly place to be. Anyway, you are a Responsible Citizen, so you go to report it. You get stuck in a room with other women, waiting to talk to an Officer – and you know that, statistically speaking, three of the other seven women sitting next to you never even saw their accused naked. You – a victim of the most dehumanizing crime imagineable – are ensconced with three perpetrators of the second most dehumanizing crime imagineable. And while there’s a chance that your Rapist might get off Scot Free – not enough evidence, procedural errors, and so forth – in the cases of these three Monsters it’s guaranteed that they will never be held to account, and will likely go out to false-claim again. And the police know this. And they have a 41% suspicion that you’re a Monster.
The feminists say that victims don’t report because the cops have a bad attitude. I say that they don’t report because the Feminists have a bad attitude.
So here’s an idea for ya’ll. It’s a bit wild-and-woolly, grown on the steppes of the Frozen North, but here it is nonetheless: What if Men and Women are Equal? Different in certain tastes and behaviours, certainly – I think that’s self-evident – but when it comes to innate Morality, our potential to do Good or Evil, and our Responsibility as Free Citizens – what if we’re actually Equals on this playing field?
Just a thought. Probably idealistic nonsense. But like Popeye said, I am what I am, and I’m a man of Prinicple. Gotta live this life ’till I die.
To all you Sisters out there – look out for your Brothers.
Aurini Out.
You are a bit confused about some men’s rights advocates. Misogyny as you might define it is justified these days. I’m not averse to marriage or meaningful relationships with women due to my own pity-worthy experiences. I’m a young man who’s good with women but recognizes that 99%+ of young western women today are not worth associating with in any way. They have all bought into misandry to varying degrees, but none are completely guilt-free. I’d say you’d find much more misandry in an average woman than misogyny in the average “radical” men’s rights advocate.
Aurini: I strongly agree with that last sentence. I may not have emphasized this enough with my ‘equal time’ approach.
You are also a bit confused if you think there’s any reason men and women are necessarily equals. There’s nothing special about morality that necessitates the sexes are equal. Are women on average as strong as men? Can men give birth to children? No. Are men still the only sex that significantly advances mankind? Yes.
Men might usually be the sex that advances the race, but Madame Curie speaks against absolutes. Also – I specified *moral* equality. I argue that we should either be moral equals – or that women should be property. I distrust any middel-of-the-road position.
I’d suggest you stick to the meaningful stuff regarding the injustices people face due to feminism (which you provided concrete examples for) and lay off your silly comments on men’s rights advocates and some imagined equality of the sexes (which you made up out of thin air without any supporting evidence).
Female Brains are remarkably similar to Male Brains, especially when considered against all the potential orientations available in Mind Space; ultimately one (or both) might prove incompatible with future optimization advancements – but in the meantime, we ought to acknowledge both orientations, and create a system which optimizes both. The latter’s the hard part.
Also note that the only reason to attack MRAs and cater to the idea of universal equality is to attempt to enlighten women and white knights to the evils of feminism. I would suggest to you that it is too late to do that. Primarily men, and a few already anti-feminist women, will burst the misandry bubble. Catering even a little to women’s and white knights’ emotional chords is ultimately fruitless, but if you’re going to do it, try not to insult men.
Aurini: The fact that you’re commenting on this piece demonstrates that you’re upset with the Status Quo; quite frankly, I am as well. I’m working on a piece titled “The Era of Studs and Sluts” about exactly this. On the one hand, I have the Game to sleep with any woman I want – on the other hand, a woman who can’t understand The High Water Mark is disugsting vermin.
Two high p value hypothesis present themselves: A) gender relations are fucked, and we’ve just got to wait for the Catgirl era; or B) gender dynamics are deeply perverted right now, and it is possible for the sexes to exist in unity together, exploring the Universe, hand in hand, creating new life throughout the cosmos…
I’m still ambivalent about the two, to be perfectly frank. In the meantime I’d recommend hoping to meet that rare Quality Woman (whilst being a Quality Guy), and getting your brain frozen Just In Case.
I think you’re completely missing the point of the Men’s Rights movement – if you’re calling us mysoginists, you’re obviously missing the point. DaOne is bang on, about you speaking like some sort of cow-towing Canadian.
Maybe you ought to be taking more of a stand, and less of a sympathetic ear! Just saying.